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The Right Touch: A Read-Aloud Story to Help Prevent Child Sexual Abuse (Jody Bergsma Collection) (Jody Bergsma Collection) Review
In the story, young Jimmy's mom explains the difference between touches that are positive and touches that are secret, deceptive or forced. She tells him how to resist inappropriate touching, affirming that abuse is not the child s fault. The introduction provides valuable information about sexual abuse and guidance on what to do if your child experiences an abusive situation. Jody Bergsma's gentle illustrations soften the impact of this story; yet this portrayal of a dangerous situation is very realistic. If your child is old enough to sit still and listen to a story, he or she is old enough for The Right Touch. Used by parents and teachers nationwide to help children avoid sexual abuse, this book won the 1999 Benjamin Franklin Parenting Award. It was a finalist for the Small Press Award and was also "Selected as Outstanding" by the Parent Council, Ltd. User Submitted The Right Touch: A Read-Aloud Story to Help Prevent Child Sexual Abuse (Jody Bergsma Collection) (Jody Bergsma Collection) ReviewsDecember 2, 2008 children are the boss of their own bodies I recently bought this book for my five and three year old granddaughters. The three year old refers to this story as the one with the touching problem, and she seems to want me to read it to her everyday. The five year old also has shown an interest in it and will sometimes ask me to read it to her in the morning before she goes to school, if we have time. I like that it has the Mom talking to her little boy explaining the difference between good touches and bad touches and how the child should handle a situation of a bad touch. One of the ways she offers is for the child to tell the perpetrator, "Stop it. I don't like it!" My three year old says that phrase now quite often, whether we're are driving in the car or anything else. I praise her when she does this, because I feel it is giving her a tool to use to know how to react if someone should try to molest her. We have also worked on labeling the private parts of girls and boys. The picture in the book has sparked an interest in both girls and I feel it can only enable them to be better able to protect themselves in a bad situation. After reading the book once to the girls, the five year old always wants to read it again, only she wants to be the one reading out loud to us, instead of me. Of course she is not accomplished her reading skills yet, but she remembers the whole story from only the pictures. Where the book talks about the child's body being theirs from the top of their head to the bottom of their toes, I usually empathise this by touching the top of their head and then the bottom of their toes. My three year old always giggles with delight, and the five year old seems to be empowered by this also, as she now knows that she is the boss of her own body and noone has the right to touch it without a very good reason. The book was excellent. It is as important to prepare our children to know how to protect themselves in this situation, as it would be for them to know what to do if there was a fire or any other emergency. November 20, 2008 Excellent for parents to read with toddlers. As the non-offending parent of a three-year-old who was molested by her biological father, I have tried to find the best materials for my daughter and myself. Although this book is intended as a tool to help prevent abuse, I believe it is also good for opening the door for "talk" with a toddler who HAS been molested. That is a good thing when you know you are not supposed to ASK the child, or lead them, but yet you are instructed by the "professionals" to seek counseling and to TEACH THEM ABOUT GOOD AND BAD TOUCHES. I recommend this book. My daughter's play therapist felt the art was "dark" but I think it is fine, that it kind of goes along with the subject it is dealing with, and my daughter really LOOKS at the pictures because they are different than most of her books. August 14, 2008 SUPER BOOK!!!! I absolutly loved this book!!! As with other readers, I also felt that it was a bit "much" for my 5yr old. I mean, it does say stuff like "a man putting his hands down a little girls panties..." However, even though it is a bit much, I believe that I would rather teach my daughter about these things now rather than end up with her being abused later because she didnt know what was going on. Just telling her to respect her body isnt enough. She needs to know what kinds of things to look out for and needs to be able to recognise that something bad is happening. I found this book to be tasteful and my daughter was attentive to it. I especailly like that this book points out that Mommies and Daddies should be respectful of her body too. So often you see on the news that children have been abused by their own parents. It's terrible. I loved that this book noted that EVERYONE shoudl respect her body and that only SHE has the right to share it. WAY TO GO!!!!! May 18, 2008 I feel it's a little much for very young children I bought this book because I wanted help teaching my daughter why she needs to keep her privates covered and the reviews said this book was great for children as young as three years old. I personally felt this book was a little much for my five year old daughter so I decided against reading it to her. I wasn't comfortable reading about `a man trying to put his hand down a child's panties while sitting on his lap.' I'm pretty surprised I am the only one who feels this way. I also bought `Your Body Belongs To You' by Cornelia Spelman and felt that book was much more appropriate for her so that is the book I read with her. I think The Right Touch is better for children a little older or any child you might suspect has possibly been abused. November 4, 2007 Excellent Book to Introduce Body Privacy Excellent on teaching children that their body belongs to them - and no one else. Discusses appropriate & inappropriate touches. Provides an example of a trusted neighbor who tricked and tried to inappropriately touch a child - all in child-friendly language and drawings. It also discusses when it is okay to be touched - bathing or when at the doctor's for a check-up. It is not scary, but matter-of-fact. We read this to our 4.5 & 3 year old daughters and have them practice saying STOP with an outstretched hand at appropriate parts of the book. Highly recommended. September 17, 2007 Wonderful story. This book is tastefully written, not scary, but led to good discussion about boundaries- with anyone he knows or doesn't know, and serious thought by my 3 1/2 year old son. He asks for the book about once a month, and refers to "touching problems" occasionally in general conversation, saying something like "you don't keep touching secrets and you say 'Stop it! I don't like that!' if someone tries to put their hand in your pants, and go tell Mom!" It's a little shocking when your baby gets a grasp of something like that, but I'd really rather that be the case than the first time he knows of it is with a previously trusted person that betrays that trust. It's not graphic or detailed and doesn't attempt to explain why a pervert would do such a thing. It appears serious to him and has caused him to talk with me and plan his response (just like what to do if he became lost in a store), but it's no more scary to him just from reading about it and talking about it than a toothy shark or scary shadow in another book. I highly recommend this for parents brave enough to tackle this subject before your child starts attending birthday parties alone or going to neighbors' houses to play. August 31, 2007 Every parent should read this book This book provides the details all parents need to have to protect thier children. It gives great tools for parents to use. I will purchase this book for all my friends as baby shower gifts! May 13, 2007 Excellent book! This book helped to reinforce what I had already taught my 4-year-old son. He asked questions that he hadn't previously asked and opened up new discussion about the topic. It's well-written, common sense approach makes it easy for pre-schoolers to understand. The author is a therapist, which made me feel confident about the quality of the content. May 12, 2007 We love this book. My son and I read this book a couple of times a week. He even tells me now what he thinks is a "good touch" and a "bad touch". I recommend this to all parents! January 5, 2007 Very informative and Easy to Understand for kids I don't think it's an Easy subject for parents to talk to their kids about, So this book opened the subject up for me. It's hard to talk about, But an Absolute Must in the World Today. It talked about bad touch and Good touch like tickles, then the mom told her son a story about a little girl. The story was a Real Life possibility because it was a neighbor asking a little girl if she liked Kittens (what kid doesn't right?)then he asked her if she wanted to come see them at his house. The book states " since she knew this person she went with him" giving you the opening to explain it's not just strangers that can hurt you. The man wanted her to sit on his lap, then he tried to put his hand in her [...], she ran home and told her mom. Then the guy got in trouble. The mom telling the story to her son Then talks about it to him so he knows to tell her if something happens. Then they get into talk about what is Private on your body.... So here's on thing I wasn't Comfortable with.... The book has an illistration of the mom and son looking at a book, and their book has a picture of a little boy and girl naked so they can identify "private Parts". EASY FIX, My husband Took a Marker and Drew a pair of underwear on the little boy So it wouldn't be an issue. So you could just draw a bathing suit on the little girl, or underwear on the little boy If you're not ready for those pics if you have younger kids. Overall the illistration are Great, not Scary, and just draw some underwear on the naked pic if you're uneasy about that. I would Buy this Book for any kid getting ready to Go to School or a Friends house. For more The Right Touch: A Read-Aloud Story to Help Prevent Child Sexual Abuse (Jody Bergsma Collection) (Jody Bergsma Collection) reviews click here.
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